I came across a great article about bonding with baby and how many women do not feel this immediate bond. The article talked about how the initial bonding period might be interrupted during the birth process and the first few weeks postpartum. It reassured women that they can talk about those feelings (or lack thereof) and gave several ideas of how to encourage bonding between mother and baby.
If you find yourself in this position, reach out to your health care provider for information, join support groups, and consider hiring a postpartum doula. These can help you understand that the journey into motherhood is, just that, a journey. It doesn’t happen all at once, and it doesn’t happen without bumps and turns along the way.
Here’s also a link to helping dads bond with their babies.
if you want to go fast, go alone — if you want to go far, go together